Do not deny who you are…EMBRACE your TRUTH!


In my mid 20’s God told me that he was going to use me to help heal others. I never asked for clarification, So what did I do…I poured myself into my books and became a RN. I thought that was the way that I would help others heal, surely that’s what God meant.

In my early 30’s I asked for clarification, my career wasn’t what God meant when He said I would help others heal. I was in the word and diligently sought after God, but their was one thing wrong…I didn’t believe that I was worthy of ministry, I didn’t know myself as God saw me. Back then I thought God would only use those who I saw as worthy of doing God’s work. I never thought that ministry was for me because I didn’t fit the mold. I compared my walk to the walk of others and automatically disqualified myself because I am not like them! I wore the comparison label really bad. I knew that my heart was for people and being a positive influence for others was a priority of mine, but to be used by God to help others heal and walk in their purpose…NOT ME?!?!? I barely liked myself so how could God use me to help others…No way! I didn’t know my gifts or even think God gave me any gifts that could help heal others. So I pushed the assignments to the side and really placed it in the back of my mind.

I would often talk real bad to myself about where I was in life because I knew what God told me when I was in my 20’s and clarified in my 30’s…I wasn’t working my assignment. I was actually doing the opposite…running from it! I have gone through some things and have conquered many of them. I do not claim to have all of the answers or claim to be perfect…but I will be transparent about my journey to get to this point in life. I know that God can and will use those who may see themselves as unqualified and not up to the “standard” of those who seem to have it all together. I know that my words have power because God has given me power.

That word that God gave me in my 20’s wasn’t for then…it was for NOW! A woman in her 40’s that has literally lived by faith, that has had her own personal walk with God, that truly loves herself and others, that wants to complete the assignment of helping others heal and walk in their purpose. I am a WOMAN of INTENT…I have intentionally answered the call of God on my life and will intentionally complete the assignments that are given me and the ones to come.

God may have given you an assignment that you feel you aren’t equipped to complete but I am a witness to God’s processing and timing. I know who I am and whose I am. I believe what God says about me. I am not beneath anyone! They may not use the eloquent language in their lengthy prayers and have the ability to recite scripture that they have memorized since childhood Sunday School and that is all good for them! But It is the experiences that I have endured over these years that have qualified me to take my position. It is the simple prayers that have gotten me through. It is the word that has transformed my mind through application of the word in my life. It is my transparency that will be used to help others heal and live out their purpose. My words have the power to speak life into others because they have been gifted to me by God! I am equipped and ready.

God needs all types of people from all types of backgrounds to bring what is needed into the earth as vessels. Do not allow comparison or your past experiences the opportunity to stop you from completing your assignments from God! It’s not too late…pick up your assignments and GO!

Love yourself enough to believe in what God has placed in you to share. You didn’t go through all that you endured just to sit on it! SHARE your truth with others, it just may help them heal! Be blessed and Be a blessing! TRUTH

The fool and the Queen!

Queen Me!

You can require others to respect you and know your worth, but first you must have knowledge and respect of self. The Queen is the strong, most powerful piece in the chess board. She can make moves that have the ability to change the coarse of the game. One thing for sure, you will NEVER see a Queen piece on a checker board. The two were maid for each other. They are two different games that serve two different purposes.

Like the Queen piece on the chess board, women have the power to make moves that have the ability to change the course of the game of life. When a person plays chess they are aware of what that Queen can do on the board. They attempt to protect and use the piece very wisely.

Someone once told me a story a about a King and a fool. It was explained to me the fact that a man has two versions of himself on the inside, a King and a fool. Well I had to take my own spin on this same concept and speak to women. The Queen and the fool mindset can be found in women.

When you are a Queen, you have the power to require others to treat you with respect and honor your position in their life. Just like the Queen chess piece is valued and used in its rightful capacity, you should be treated the same. Recognize your value and worth. Move accordingly to the position that you hold in your mindset. Do you see yourself as worthy, royalty, powerful and deserving of being loved.

It is important for us to know our worth and not have the mindset of a fool when it comes to interactions with those to desire to be in our lives. The definition of a fool is simply “someone who acts unwisely.” We MUST use wisdom in all areas of our lives, especially when forming relationships. We must have enough wisdom and knowledge of ourselves to require others to treat us with love and respect. When we do not know our worth, others have the ability to attempt to treat us as fools!

We can ask God for an increase of wisdom and knowledge of self to gain a better understanding of who we are and were created to be. Displaying wisdom is an act of self love. It is ok to grow from our foolish ways and mature into our rightful place in life of QUEENDOMHOOD! (yes, I mad that word up ☺️)

I can admit that I have operated in foolishness. Allowed people the opportunity to not treat me in the manner that I truly deserved. I entered relationships blindly, placing the needs of others before my own needs. Some decisions that I made in this life were not wise and many were made all out of lack of true knowledge of myself.

I had to recognize the pattern of people who were entering my life and evaluate my mindset. What was I putting out that cause me to receive the type of people in my life? I entered relationships that were not good for me spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. I was searching for love in all of the wrong places because I did not fully understand and know myself. I had to take the time assess all areas of my life to figure where I was lacking in wisdom. I repented, I simply took a turn in my mindset and did the opposite of what I had been doing before.

The energy that I placed in building up others was transferred into building up myself. I had to stop dealing with the unwise and let the fools go. Once I gained full knowledge and understanding of myself it was easier to move into spaces with others who were on my level of understanding and knowledge.

My question to you is, are you operating as a Queen in all areas in your life? Or a fool? The Queen chess piece has the power to move in ways that the other pieces on the board can’t move. She knows that she is uniquely different and set apart. The person who knows how to move her in the ways that she is made for as the ability win! Do you understand that you to have that same ability? The ability to win and be around winners!

Do not operate in foolishness by allowing others to treat you any type of way. Know who you are in the game of life and move accordingly! You are apart of a royal priesthood, you have the power to require respect and love. Understand the Queen in you, move in wisdom to rule your QUEENDOM!!!

A women who connects to a fool (unwise) is a woman who is taking risk at winning in the game of life. Know your WORTH! You are valuable! Knowledge of self will demand you to require respect from others!

(Thank you for visiting my site. Be sure to come back to read next weeks (Friday) blog post, “QUEENDOM…know your position!”)

What are you saying to yourself about yourself?

What you say about yourself counts so much more than what others say about you. It is what you believe to be true that becomes your reality. Labels are stereotypes we attach ourselves to and identify with emotionally. Those emotions can be negative or positive, but when we focus on the negative aspect of the label we alter our internal feeling about the most important person in your life, YOU. The negative emotion becomes a cancer within your mind and grows to the point that every cell has been altered to resemble the DNA of the negative label. One thought can become your lifestyle. A thought that is rehearsed over and over in your mind, becomes a process of thinking. The negative process of thinking then becomes a daily routine which leads to a negative lifestyle.

One failed test or difficulty with a project becomes a thought of I am stupid, just because one test was missed or you took longer on a project than you expected. The label of “stupid” that you identified with in your thoughts, then becomes a process when you rehearse the events of the failure in your mind. The conversation becomes “I failed the test, I am so stupid, I will never be successful.” The thought of being “stupid” because of a failed test becomes I will always be this way because I am stupid for failing one test. The conversation we have with ourselves about ourselves has to be different. Instead of focusing on the failure by calling yourself stupid, think on the positive. The self conversation can go from negative to a positive if you choose to do so. A failed test is not so bad, it is the emotion that rises up with that failed test that is doing the damage to self. The person that started the self-sabotaging behavior can change the conversation with self by saying “yes, I failed the test, but let me see what I can change to do better next time.” We can change our lives one positive self conversation at a time.

Be mindful of the conversations that you have with yourself. Our mind believes what we tell it to believe. What are you telling yourself to believe about you? Are you having a self-sabotaging conversation? If you are make the decision to change the way you talk about the most important person in your life…YOU! Give yourself the same Grace that God gives you! Stop being a BULLY to yourself!

Transparency Strengthens and Heals

Our transparency  with God and ourselves is what heals! It’s easy to go back into our comfort zone of what we would normally do in situations, but when we are on the journey of Transformation we have to come out of what is comfortable to us. We have to be sensitive to what the spirit of God is telling us. We are praying for healing and mind renewal! 

Our transparency allows God into the areas that we need to be healed. We must take it all to God, even though God is all knowing and all powerful, in prayer. It’s like a parent who already knows what a child has done but wants the child to speak it. The parent wonders, “will my child be open and honest with me to let me know what has happened or will they shun away from telling the truth”. When the child tells the truth, the parent is relieved not only about the confession but because the child honored the relationship by revealing what was ailing them. This makes the parent feel great about the relationship that they have with their child. That’s how God is…

When we feel comfortable enough to be transparent with God it helps the relationship and gives the opportunity for God to heal those hurting places just as a parent would do for their child. 

Level Up

Growth is a forward moving task that requires expansion. Think of a plant. The seed is planted in the soil, it is watered and nurtured so that the growth process can occur. Once the plant starts to grow, it starts to move in an upward motion on top of the soil, but underneath the soil the roots are moving in a lateral and downward motion to help with the foundation of the growth process for the plant. As the plant continues to grow the roots go deeper and spread out wider. Soon the plant outgrows it container and has to be transplanted into a new pot in order for the growth process to continue on. When growth is occurring in something, it cannot remain in the space that limits its growth.

Just like the plant, we to have to have a strong foundation that firmly supports our growth process. Something or someone that will hold us down as we grow up mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. The firm foundation that we need for growth is prayer and meditation. Just like the soil that supports the plant, prayer and meditation provide support for our spirit as we grow to the next level.

Leveling up requires positive moves. These moves will push you to the next level in life and it’s all based on the way you think about yourself. Being a person with a level up mentality requires positive thinking, positive attitude and positive talk about the most important person in your life…YOU!

I have always wanted to help others reach their goals, dreams, and aspirations! And I have always had the ability to encourage others with positive words and actions, but when it came to myself that was a different case. I was not watering my soul with the nourishment of prayer and meditation so that my spirit could grow confidently into what I was called to be. My foundation was not growing at the roots, so my growth became stagnant.

I had to change the way I treated myself in actions. The way I carried myself was not conducive to a healthy growth pattern. Not saying that I was all jacked up, but how I invested in me needed improvements. I would spend all kinds of money on things that did not benefit my growth like restaurants and clothes that I did not need. But when the time came to enroll in a course or something like that…I never found the time or money to invest in me!

I also had to level up my associations. The company we keep has the ability to help grow our foundation and allow it to remain strong. Transformation wil require you to grow outside of your comfort zone. I have labeled myself as the introvert-extrovert. Getting to know knew people is not hard for me, it’s the getting out part that I struggle with in my mind. I have had the ability to talk myself right out of opportunities to connect with others that could have helped me lay a stronger foundation in life.

So ask yourself the questions….

What company am I keeping? What dialogue do I have with the company that I keep and with myself? What do I think about me? And most of all how can I increase my time in prayer and meditation?

To be intentional about transformation(growth) we must

1. Embrace Change

2. Level up!

“Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Romans 12:2